010 – How Can I Meet Her Without Telling Her Who I Am?

Steve was raised in Baltimore, MD in a predominantly Jewish suburban neighborhood. But as he looked around at his friends and other families, he truly questioned his own identity, especially as an adoptee. In an era before electronic record keeping, Steve used his street savvy to buy the information he needed about himself in order to advance his search for his biological family. More crafty thinking led Steve right to his biological mother’s front door. He wanted to meet her, but not necessarily reveal that he was her son. He knocked on her door with a story that should have gotten him sent on his way. Instead she invited him in! Just wait until you hear his crafty approach to introducing himself to his biological mother, and the truth about his European heritage.


  1. Martha Phipps on 06/08/2017 at 12:56 AM

    What an amazing story Steve has! I, as a mother who gave birth to my daughter and then, due to forces beyond my control, agreed to her adoption. I searched for her for over 28 years and then one great day, had the joy of her finding and making contact with me in 2015. These podcasts are invaluable to me to help me understand some of the things she may have experienced as an adopted child, or what she may experience in our reunion. Steve’s story really hit home for me when he said he looked at the calendar where his mother had marked as his birthday, for this is what I did on every new calendar I started at the beginning of a new year. And observed her birthday somehow. So, thank you for these podcasts; I plan to listen to all of them.

    • Damon Davis on 06/12/2017 at 1:29 AM

      Martha, I’m really glad you’re enjoying the podcasts. I really wanted to help people to tell their own stories, in their own words, exposing their deepest emotions. I’m glad to hear that birth moms like you appreciate the series. It must be so incredibly hard to wonder what ever happened to the baby you relinquished years ago. I’m so glad you were able to reconnect with your biological daughter. Please put her in touch with me if she’s comfortable sharing her story. Everyone’s journey is different, and adoptees and biological parents take something away from each one.

      Thank you so much for listening!

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